While I enjoy working with couples and am able to address a variety of themes and challenges for couples I specialize in two forms of couples counseling: Integrated & Intensive Couples Counseling
Integrated Couples Counseling
You don't get, understand, or see me as a person...what has happened?
Attachment matters to us, it's what allows us to feel connected and seen. But from family of origin concerns to a partner that is just driving us nuts, attachment in practice isn't always so simple.
Often when a couple comes to see me for counseling, there are a variety of things that are happening for the couple and for the individuals involved in the relationship. Most forms of couples counseling seek to address things just from a systems-level and don’t integrate the concerns the individuals may be also presenting.
Though using EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and EMDR I work with couples to fully address the concerns that have lead them into counseling, as well as seek to address things from an attachment perspective. This form of couples counseling integrates individual and couple’s sessions to address things from a holistic, attachment-oriented, perspective. Often the couples that finds this form of couple’s therapy most helpful have challenges in:
Managing Conflict in their relationship
Are often talking about the same subjects over and over again without any resolve
Continue to feel distressed or anxious even when things feel good in the relationship
May have a history of trauma
Intensive Couples Counseling
We just start talking..getting somewhere..and then the session is over..
Most couple’s sessions last the same length as individual counseling sessions: 50 minutes.
Sometimes this leads couples to feel they are not getting “to the meat” of what is happening and feel constrained by this time limit.
In this form of couples counseling sessions are often 90 minutes to two hours and provide the couple with a venue to go deeper into the issues that are presenting themselves in the relationship. Often the couples I find that value this approach may struggle with:
Feeling Connected to their partner
May have one major event that has deeply changed their relationship
Have other individuals (family or friends) weighing in on their relationship that is leading to confusion or distress within the relationship
Have a variety of subjects they need to talk about and want space for this.